A difference in parenting is something that can create troubles between couples, in extreme cases and can lead to divorce or living with dissatisfaction if unsolved. These issues arrive when parents have opposing views on concerns related to the child and they tend to convey mixed messages to the child. These can lead to serious arguments which disturbs the environment at home and if you too feel that both of you have different parenting styles, here are few tips to deal with it
You should be flexible enough to change your parenting with your child’s age. You and your partner must re-construct the parenting model as needed keeping in mind the personality of your child. Just remember that if you will not change with time it will create problems later.
Discussion is important
As a couple, both of you must discuss parenting strategies with each other. Talk and share about how you were raised up and what you should do. If your philosophies don’t match then try to follow one at a time.
As parents, you must share responsibilities so divide the responsibility of taking care of the child at different timings. And when you are delegating a duty to your partner do not intervene and wait for it to get done else it will lead to arguments.
Parents need to communicate with each other about their opinion on different topics like social customs, parenting styles and safety issues related to the child. Lack of communication often leads to disagreements and fights so you need to teach your child that communication is an important thing.
Creates rules together
While setting some rules for your child and house, you and your partner must sit together and decide. Set rules that you both agree on and share them with your kids and make them follow it.
- Do not Fight
If you do not agree on something then rather than fighting in front of the kids discuss the matter in personal making your partner understand with valid reasons.